You are Going to Fail
You said you were gonna hit the gym five days this week, but you only made it out twice. You planned on crushing your nutrition goals and making healthier choices this time, but it was your coworkers birthday and the entire office was pestering you about joining for just a small slice of cake.
Failure, again. Womp, womp, womp. Cue the guilt, the self-depreciation, and the “might as well give up the rest of my week” talk.
I get it. In the past I would hit the breaks before I even reached the finish line. The abrupt pressure against my safety belt would then burn in my chest as immense guilt settled in. From there I’d never try that big scary thing anymore for fear of failing yet again. Nothing ever got done because I’d get stuck in this toxic cycle of failing, feeling terrible about it, then giving up completely. I would never hit any goal at that rate.
Ugh, I cringe looking back on the many opportunities I missed because I gave up or let fear get in the way.
The reality is, you are going to fail. We are all bound to fail something at some point, but we don’t have to QUIT.
It wasn’t until I started to see my failures as lessons, little speed bumps, rather than total road blocks that I started to pull myself out of the fail -> guilt -> quit cycle. I learned that the speed bumps don’t mean I need to slam on the breaks and turn around leaving my destination in the rear-view mirror. They were just preparing me for what’s to come! (GASP!) Maybe it was a fast curve ahead, an easier downhill, or a quick rest before the final climb before reaching my pin on the map.
Try to see a “failure” as a building block to get you closer to your goal.
I see this so often in the gym, where failure is in fact A GOOD THING! When trying to get to a PR (personal record) pushing it to the limit and eventually to failure is actually the goal. We test our limits until we are maxed out and fail a rep. This seems counterintuitive, I know, but adding another five pounds to the bar and then failing is actually really empowering. You tested the max effort, didn’t quite get that much lifted, and now you have some building blocks to work on and hit your goal next time.
So you planned on hitting the gym, but your boss had you stay late or your kids just aren’t letting it happen today. You could quit right there and just watch Paw Patrol the rest of the day while sharing fruit snacks with the children. Or you can adapt.
These kinds of failures can either put you at a dead halt OR they can stretch your thinking to get creative.
Try doing a workout at home. You can even involve the kids to work out some wiggles. Learning how to be flexible with your routine teaches you how to adapt and keep moving forward toward your goals.
New research tells us that it takes 66 days to create a new habit. If can be so disappointing (and ignite that fail -> guilt -> quit forever cycle) to stumble and then give up completely on day 60 when you could have picked yourself up and got back on track for day 61.
Your journey won’t be linear and the speed bumps will be there. You are going to fail, so why not turn those setbacks into building blocks. You didn’t come this far to only come this far!